Arden Leigh is a writer, female pickup artist, and former professional dominatrix. I’ve been reading her blog, A Weapon of Mass Seduction since this summer and I just recently finished her book, New Rules Of Attraction. Love it.
In her book, Arden highlights what she has learned about attraction, dating, relationships, and how the male mind works from her experience in being a pro-domme in NYC. She teaches women about how to be enticing through creating a personal brand and using interpersonal skills and psychology to attract specific desired men. She even goes further into discussing what motivates men to stick around in a woman’s life for the longer term relationship.
I assume many people might wonder how there is even much of a market for female pickup artists to begin with. When it comes to attracting men, the usual advice seems to be that all a woman needs to do to get guys is to sit around, look hot, and guys will flock to her. While that might be true to an extent, it doesn’t help women get the guys they specifically want. Most women don’t want to attract just any guy trying to hook up with any attractive woman, they want to get the guys they already have eyes for who will truly be into them as well.
Here is an interview she did with pick-up artist Todd Valentine.
Arden explains that her motivation to get into the pick-up scene was because she needed this kind of advice for herself in her teens and early 20s. Once upon a time, I did too. I used to be super-skinny with no curves. I didn’t have a clue what I was doing with fashion, hair, or makeup. I was definitely a victim of the ugly duckling syndrome. On top of that, I was pretty shy and quiet. I did manage to get a couple of boyfriends in high school, but I had to work up the nerve and approach them. I would have been thrilled to read this kind of material back then.
What fascinates me about Arden isn’t just about how she teaches women to attract guys, but it’s how she radiates with confidence and wisdom. She is a woman who has worked from the ground up, from being an awkward and overlooked teenage girl into being a powerful seductress that no sensible man can resist. Before her pickup days when she used to be rejected often, she didn’t complain about how her life sucks, or write articles about how men suck. She took action and changed her outcomes, and made a career out of that. She had a problem that she took full control and authority over. This is the type of thing I would love to see all women do.
I recommend Arden’s work to every woman, whether single, dating, or committed. There’s good stuff in here for women of any relationship status, with maybe a few detailed ideas in some of her material that I personally have a slightly different take on, but generally the book is great for women who want to take action and allure men rather than sit there waiting for a man she may not even like to begin with.