I just read a post on another blog that talks about the way that women are terrible about choosing a restaurant when their husband or boyfriend asks. The conversation goes like this:
Husband: Ok, where do you want to go to eat?
Wife: I don’t know, I’ll eat whatever.
Husband: No, you pick.
Wife: Um…I don’t know. Ugh. You pick.
Husband: Okay, fine about how this place?
Wife: No! I don’t want to go to that place!
Most of you know all about this because you have had this obnoxious little argument. For many, you usually just randomly pick a place because you are too annoyed to do anymore discussing of something so trivial, while in the back of your mind you wonder why this silliness happens every time. Well, there are two secrets that I have figured out that I think women need to know.
Women are often more indecisive than men.
Men really want you to decide.
Yes, studies show that women have a tendency to be less decisive than men. There are a few speculations about why this is, but low confidence is a big one. When it comes to choosing a place to eat, it could be that women have an idea or more about where they’d like to go, but they want to choose a place that both her and her husband will enjoy. She might also be hesitant because she’s trying to factor in budget or choosing a place that is relatively healthy, for a restaurant anyway. There are many possibilities but the point remains is that women collectively need to work on improving their decision making skills.
Next, men want you to decide where to eat. They truly do, especially if they are the ones who ask you where you want to go. In the above convo, sometimes it’s the guy who is the one going, “No, that place doesn’t sound good. Can you pick something else?” He’s practically begging you to take charge. A lot of men don’t like to admit this, but sometimes they really do like to take a backseat and let a woman take the lead in certain daily life situations. Take the opportunity. It might be annoying at first but just think of it this way, he’s helping you to become a better decision maker. If he’s asking you where you want to eat, don’t overthink it. Don’t hem and haw, and don’t you dare say, “I don’t know.” Just say what you want, and be confident about it. If he doesn’t like your idea, let him know that is your offer and that he’s welcome to come up with something else. Most of the time, he will just be happy that you were decisive and he will go along with your idea. The bottom line, if he didn’t want you to decide, he wouldn’t ask you. He would instead just suggest a place from the get-go.
In other words, go with your gut and just a pick a damn restaurant.