How Are You Showing Your Love For Him?


In my life, there are countless number of mornings where I wake up and feel like the luckiest woman in the world. I truly have a great man in my life that I know for a fact cares about me and loves me deeply.

How do I know?

I know because the proof is there in his actions all the time. He’s cared for me when I was sick. When I communicate, he listens. He’s made compromises and sacrifices for me. He was there for me when I lost my mom. He’s always made sure I was safe. He’s always put personal thought into gifts. I could go on and on. He’s the guy that will lovingly go the extra mile just to make me happy. When a love like this exists, you can feel it all throughout yourself, and there are no doubts.

Now I have a bit of a confession to make. There have been times where in the midst of feeling like the luckiest woman in the world, I have considered how I am showing my love for him.

I’ve asked myself if I am doing my part in giving back. I wanted him to feel love from me in the same way that I felt love from him, and there were moments where I began feeling like I wasn’t doing enough. It wasn’t because he complained about anything. These were times when he hadn’t said a word. I realized on my own that I needed to step it up, and I didn’t just because I felt like I should, but also because I genuinely wanted to.

This gets me wondering, how often do women really ask themselves whether or not they are really showing their men that they care? And if so, what are they doing?

I think a lot of women possibly get so caught up in what they are getting out of a relationship that they don’t ever think about what they are giving. In any healthy relationship, there must be give and take. If one is doing all of the giving and the other is doing all of the taking, that relationship will not last.

He absolutely must feel that you love him.

I suspect that some women might think that telling a partner she loves him and complimenting him is enough, but it’s not. Showing your love for your partner requires more than just words. You can tell him you love him all day long, but he likely won’t feel it unless you show him you care with your actions.

You can do this in your own unique way, one that you choose, but one that he will recognize and appreciate you for. There really are no right or wrong answers when it comes to showing you care. Just make sure he feels that love from you.

If you really love someone, it shouldn’t be too difficult to figure out how to show it. It shouldn’t be forced or uncomfortable. It shouldn’t feel like a chore. When true love is present, you give back to them willingly, and you enjoy the privileged of caring for them.

So what are you doing to show him you care?

I want women reading this to ask themselves this question. Make a list of things you currently do, or want to do more of. Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments.

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Comments 13

  • I will be interested to read the comments. I bet that most women don’t really know what men want.

  • Yes women should always think about what they are providing. My only problem is, I need to find a good guy first!

  • I think a lot of young women shy away from this topic because they fear men secretly only want women to cook and clean for them, have sex on demand, and bend at their will, and this is not true. A few men will have them believing that though but you have to determine the good men from those men.

    My marriage was pretty well balanced in giving and taking until we found out he had cancer. I held us up financially by being the only one working through his worst days. I did the cooking and cleaning for him and also took care of everything household wise. I drove him to his appointments. I was his nurse for about a year. I slept no more than 4 hours a night most nights. My mother, sister, and best friend helped me from time to time because to do it all is a lot for anyone to be doing alone. There were some hard times because he felt helpless and he felt like a burden on me. But it was no burden. I chose to care for him this way. I was NOT going to send him to a nursing home!

    So I have no doubts that he’s grateful I’ve done my part in nursing him back to health. Thankfully he’s kicked cancer’s ass. He’s doing great these days and his experience has breathed new life into him. He never fails to let me know how much he appreciates what I have done for him.

    • Wow it sounds like you have really helped him a great deal. I can only imagine how trying it would be to help a spouse through cancer. I’m glad you that had help from your family and I’m glad he’s doing well now. My guy was in an accident at work that left him off his feet for several months, and I had to assist him quite a bit too. I’d do it again 100 times over if I had to.

  • This is a great post! I try to pour respect and honor all over my husband in any way I can. He really likes to hear my words, to know he is important to me. He likes to know he is irreplaceable too, so just a touch of dependence, of neediness. Not too much! But I can be very independent, so I have to make sure he knows I count on him, I need him.

    Basic manners are helpful too, lots of “please” and” thank you,” as if he were an honored guest. Sometimes we get comfortable and we put away all the nice things, they’re for company, and then we forget to treat one another as if we really are the most important, the honored guest in our lives.

  • My boyfriend and I have had talks like this where I have asked him what he wants and expects of me. All are very reasonable.

    – Honesty
    – Loyalty
    – Openness
    – A good sense of humor
    – Financial partner
    – Communication skills (assertiveness)

    I have found personal ways to go above and beyond this. I have done more for him than any of his exes have done.

  • Men are amazingly simple creatures. If you go to YouTube and search for Chris Rock What Women Want, it will be surprisingly close. lol

    We want you to want us. Yes we want sex. Yes we want to be fed. Yes we want to be left alone at times. We don’t want a lot of stuff. Forget giving us roses, or chocolates, or other bobbles.

    We really just want you.

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