I decided to poll my audience.
Ladies, when was the moment you realized that he really did love you?
Turns out, there are many ways a man tells a woman “I love you.” Here are some of my favorite responses:
“When he put my feelings first.”
“It was a gradual realization but I would say the point when it became obvious to me was when my roommate was gone and I was complaining about being alone and he drove out to make me feel better, about 45 minutes round trip, he had to be at work in the morning (I was still in college at the time).”
“He was always there, and he didn’t leave.”
“He stayed through my depression when I couldn’t even recognize myself.”
“He told me that just being in my presence made him feel at home.”
“The fact he respected my boundaries, didn’t pressure me into anything, and asked me if I was comfortable before he touched me. (That was when I knew that he really cared about me.)
“The look he gives me when I touch his face or simply laughing. That is a look of someone that is in love.
Here’s when I knew Mr. DTK loved me:
When he started using the word “we” often and referred to future plans as if it was a given. Also, the first time I had to take a trip out of the state for a week, I came back and he was so incredibly excited to see me that he had the house all cleaned and dinner made, and I could just feel the energy that he he missed the shit out of me. There’s nothing like that “I’m so glad your home” energy.
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Until next time,
Ash Pariseau
Asking yourself “when did I know he first loved me?” is an example of how not to do it.
I have been married for 16 years, and we have four kids. We met when I was in graduate school, and I was broke. We have been through years in the army, fights, mortgages, weight loss and gain, health issues/scares, laughing/inside jokes, in-law issues, etc.
My wife leaves little packages of single-serving crackers by her side of the bed. She leaves shoes wherever she happens to be standing when she takes them off. Half-empty coffee mugs everywhere. And she snores. Every one of those things could make me mad if I chose to. But instead, whenever I find the bathroom trash can full of smelly panty liners, I smile because it reminds that I have a partner for life. I think about all those single people out there longing for someone to pick up after and I smile. She says that she feels the same way about razor clippings in the sink and my sweaty work out clothes.
One day, if God forbid she leaves this world before I do, I will miss (terribly) the plastic wrappers, the shoes and the snoring. That’s how you do love. You don’t wait for the other person to prove their love for you.
Of course, you pick your battles. There are little things your partner will do that aren’t perfect, but it’s not worth having an argument over.
way to completely miss the point. Just like this entire blog does.
Didn’t miss it. Made my own besides his.