It’s been almost a month much of the country is still in a frenzy ever since the overturn of Roe v Wade on June 24th. Regardless of where you stand on abortion or what your opinion is, the SCOTUS decision is proving to make quite an impact on all sides socially and also within the US’s health care system.
In 1973, the revolutionary case authorized women federal constitutional protection to choose abortion, but now that it is overturned, the matter is left up to the states. This move has shaken many pro-choicers, and as a result they’re commanding certain efforts from men that actually aren’t all that unwarranted.
In a CNN interview, Vice President Kamala Harris shared a message to parents who are raising boys. “Everyone has something at risk on this,” she said. She continues, “First of all, if you are a parent of sons, do think about what this means for the life of your son and what that will mean in terms of the choices he will have,” she said.
KAMALA: “If you are a parent of sons, do think about what this means for the life of your son and what that will mean in terms of the choices he will have.” pic.twitter.com/PFRBDx9bl0
— Townhall.com (@townhallcom) June 27, 2022
It seems as though she might be alluding to the idea that young men would be wise to caution themselves before having sex with a woman and really consider if they’re ready and prepared for fatherhood, which is an objectively reasonable (and basic) request.
Kamala Harris isn’t alone in calling on men to get their act together and step up for fatherhood. There is now significant commentary from people who demand that men be included in taking responsibility for the lives they conceive, as if this request is a novel idea.
at @TeenVogue, we want men to understand that the ending of Roe affects them too and it’s time for them to step up –
if ur a young man who wants to talk to me about how abortion has changed ur life, DMs are open/email: Fortesa_Latifi@condenast.com
*cishet men, u especially!
— Fortesa Latifi (@fortesalatifi) June 28, 2022
Here’s a question, how many people thought the overturn was only going to affect pro-choice women? Needless to say, a scarcity of access to abortion shouldn’t be the only thing that drives men to be mindful of who they are hooking up with and take responsibility for their actions.
Unfortunately, it remains a persistent gender norm that responsibility for birth control and reproductive health falls primarily on women. Though, that might now be changing rapidly so considering how many men are now suddenly interested in getting a vasectomy. Perhaps it’s at least partially on us for failing to regularly engage with men and age-appropriate boys about their role in reproductive planning and sexual well-being. How much does your boyfriend or husband know about your cycle? Is he aware of what risks and burdens you take to stay on birth control? How is he taking part in that strategy?
If we want men to step up and take more responsibility, then we need to make sure we are properly enabling it by communicating clearly BEFORE sex happens what we need in prevention and what we expect should pregnancy occur. Ensuring that men are involved in the conversations around menstruation, birth control options, parental planning and other aspects of women’s reproductive health might be a good place for us to start in leading the way.
What are your thoughts? What message can parents leave with their sons to prepare them for such a responsibility? Leave your thoughts in the comments below.