When it comes to relationships, many people strive to find a partner who possesses a combination of both internal and external qualities. However, it’s not always easy to identify these qualities, and terms like “high value man” and “quality man” are often used to describe men who are considered desirable partners.
In the world of dating, these terms may seem interchangeable, however there are distinct differences between the two that are worth exploring. As a woman who is passionate about personal growth and developing healthy relationships with great men, I believe it’s important to understand these differences to make informed decisions when it comes to selecting a partner.
What is a high value man?
The term “high value man” is often associated with surface level qualities such as financial success, career accomplishments, attractive physical appearance, and social status, otherwise known in some spaces as “LMS” (looks, money status). In general, a high value man is someone who has achieved a certain level of success in his life, and his success often comes from his ability to be strategic, focused, and driven. For example, a high value man is typically financially stable and has a good job. He may be a successful entrepreneur, CEO, or executive who earns a high salary and has significant assets.
Some believe the term coined by the late dating coach and author, Kevin Samuels. In his own words, a high value man is “a man who has his act together, who is financially stable, who takes care of himself, who is confident, and who knows what he wants in life.” In other words, a high value man is someone who is successful in various areas of life such as career, health, and attracting women.
High value men are often sought after by women because they possess traits that are considered attractive and desirable. These traits include confidence, ambition, and a strong work ethic. High value men are also known for their ability to provide financial security and stability, which is an important factor for many women when choosing a partner.
However, while financial stability and status can be attractive, it’s important to remember that a man’s outward success does not necessarily equate to being a good partner. Some men may be successful in their careers but lack the emotional intelligence, empathy, and kindness that are essential for a healthy relationship.
What is a high quality man?
On the flip side, a quality man is someone who possesses internal qualities that make him a great partner. These qualities may include empathy, kindness, emotional intelligence, and a commitment to personal growth and self-improvement. A quality man is someone who is reliable, loyal, trustworthy, dependable, values his relationships and puts effort into building and maintaining them.
In the words of relationship expert, James Preece, “A quality man is someone who is respectful, kind, and genuine. He is confident and comfortable in his own skin, and he knows how to treat a woman with respect and make her feel special.”
In many ways, a quality man is actually the polar opposite of a high value man. Instead of focusing solely on external success, a quality man prioritizes his internal qualities and values. He is someone who is introspective, reflective, and self-aware, and he is committed to working on himself and improving his relationships.
A quality man is typically empathetic and compassionate, who is usually able to put himself in others’ shoes and understand their perspectives. In addition to empathy, a quality man is often emotionally intelligent. He is able to identify and regulate his own emotions, as well as understand and respond to the emotions of others. For example, a quality man may be someone who is committed to therapy or counseling, or who regularly reads books and attends workshops on personal growth and self-improvement.
What are the key differences between the two?
While there are certainly some similarities between a high value man and a high quality man, there are also some significant differences that set them apart. Here are some of the main differences:
- Success vs. Character
A high value man is often defined by his success in various areas of life such as career, finances, and health. In contrast, a quality man is defined by his character traits such as honesty, kindness, and empathy.
- External vs. Internal
A high value man’s value is often based on external factors such as his career success, financial stability, and physical appearance. On the other hand, a quality man’s value is based on internal factors such as his personality, character, and integrity.
- Attraction vs. Compatibility
A high value man is often attractive to women because of his success and financial stability. However, his success and financial stability do not necessarily make him a compatible partner. A quality man, by contrast, is attractive to women because of his character traits and his ability to form deep, meaningful connections.
Can a man possess both high value and high quality characteristics?
It’s important to note that while it’s possible for a man to embody both external success and internal qualities, in our modern society, you might find it to be rare for any man to be fully tapped into both harmoniously. Many women may be drawn to high value men simply because of their physical attractiveness and outer success, but may find that they lack the emotional intelligence, empathy, and kindness that are necessary for a healthy relationship.
As women it’s essential to look beyond external success and evaluate a man’s internal qualities to determine whether or not he is an overall good partner that is compatible with you. Ultimately, a man’s internal qualities are what make him a great partner and contribute to a healthy, fulfilling relationship.
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